Can You Have a Social Life After Sleep training? Absolutely!
You might hear stories from parents who have worked hard to sleep train their child, only to find themselves feeling trapped by strict nap schedules and bedtimes. Some rush out of parties early or skip events altogether because their child’s sleep routine doesn’t align with their plans. If you’re considering sleep training but worried about losing your social freedom, don’t stress—rigid schedules don’t have to rule your life.
In my experience, even after sleep training, you can absolutely still enjoy your life. I’ve gone on holidays with Elliot, attended birthday parties on weekends, and managed just fine without sticking to a rigid nap schedule. Yes, sleep is important for both you and your child, but not at the cost of your social life.
Here are some practical tips to help you find that balance:
Embrace the 80/20 Rule
Balance is key. If you follow your baby’s sleep routine about 80% of the time, a little flexibility here and there won’t undo all your hard work. This mindset allows for occasional social outings without guilt or stress. It’s okay to bend the rules now and then for special events or a much-needed break.
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If you don’t have a helper or family member available to watch your little one, you can still enjoy social time with friends:
Set Up a Sleep Space: Bring along a travel crib or pack-and-play and set it up in a quiet, dark room. A white noise machine (like the Marpac Hush) can help recreate the sleep environment from home.
Follow Your Routine: Stick to as much of your usual bedtime routine as possible to help your baby wind down.
Enjoy Your Evening: Once your baby is asleep, take some time to relax and enjoy adult company. Your child is safe and close by, so you can be at ease.
Gentle Transfer: When it’s time to head home, try to make the transition as smooth as possible. If your baby wakes up, no worries—just go through your usual routine to settle them back down at home.
These little disruptions are usually manageable, and babies are more adaptable than we often think. Flexibility is your friend!
A Slightly Later Bedtime is Okay
If you plan your outings so you’re back within an hour of your baby’s usual bedtime, that small shift shouldn’t cause much trouble. Try to stick close to the routine when you can, but don’t stress over a small deviation. You can always make up for it with an earlier nap or a longer wind-down period the next day.
Get a Babysitter or Family Help
Now that your baby is sleeping well, take advantage of it! Every once in a while, ask a trusted family member or sitter to watch your little one so you can enjoy some adult time. Choose someone who understands and respects your baby’s routine to keep things consistent while you’re out.
Communicate Clearly
Whether it’s grandparents, a babysitter, or even friends at their house, make sure everyone understands your baby’s sleep schedule and routine. Clear communication ensures that your baby’s sleep habits stay intact, even when you’re not the one putting them to bed.
Be Flexible and Kind to Yourself
Remember, parenting is all about balance. While it’s important to maintain your baby’s sleep routine, your social and emotional well-being matters too. Don’t be too hard on yourself if things don’t go perfectly. Flexibility, patience, and a positive attitude go a long way in keeping both you and your baby happy and well-rested.
By following these tips, you can keep your baby’s sleep on track while also enjoying the social time you deserve. After all, a well-rested parent is just as important as a well-rested baby! So go ahead and plan that evening out—you’ve earned it!
